How to Become a Master Dater

Be purposeful

Gentlemen: now hear me through. I am going to talk to you about perhaps the most important thing you need to do to become a master dater like me. The key to success in this game is simply this: keep it purposeful.

What in the heck does that mean?

It means being in control of your life in every way. Let me be more specific.

1.Be purposeful in mind: be aware of where you are, what you're doing, and what is around you – AT ALL TIMES. Don't get lost in your head thinking about some useless event in the past or one that has yet to occur. This leads us to:

2.Be purposeful in speech: Think about what you're going to say before you say it. Don't just blurt out the first thing(s) that come to mind. Be thoughtful, be confident, and speak accordingly.

3.Be purposeful in voice tone: Besides thinking about what you're going to say, think about how you're going to say it. Use an assertive tone of voice, speak slowly and deliberately, use tonal variations as opposed to speaking in a monotone. And while you're speaking purposefully and using voice tones to your advantage….

4.Be purposeful with eye contact: Ahh, this is a real key. Bore into her soul with your eyes. Don't ever lose eye contact, keep staring deeply into her eyes until she looks away first. Watch that faint blush overtake her face. You've got her now, gents!

5.Be purposeful with movement: No surprise here. Think about your body language and what it conveys. Folding your arms is closed and insecure. Use body positions that are confident yet approachable. Don't fidget. Lean towards her when she speaks. Don't look down when you speak – remember – eye contact!

6.Be purposeful with posture: Taking purposeful movement one step further, think about your posture. How do you usually stand? Are you slouched and slumped or straight and self-confident? Stand tall and proud guys: a little arrogance never hurt anyone!!